There are so many books out there detailing how parents should do their so-called ‘job’. But is there really a manual to ‘great parenting’?
When my first child was born, I used ‘Baby Love’ by Robin Barker as my bible. It got me through some long nights and many confusing days. But a manual for great parenting? Different people will find help from different books, I suppose. At the end of the day, you have to remember that each child is an individual and so will offer up their own challenges, joys and rewards that can’t always be boxed up neatly in a book. Sometimes, you’ve got to trust your instincts and do what you think is right. As long as your actions stem from love, you should be okay.
What is the most important thing about parenting for you?
Maintaining positive, open communication with my kids. Having them know that I love them above all else and receiving their love and respect in return.
Do you ever find that your kids can have unrealistic expectations of you as a ‘superhero’ parent?
Love it or hate it, being a parent is about being a superhero in your kids’ eyes. Parenting is one of the most difficult, confusing, selfless, endlessly wearying things you’ll ever do in your entire life. Luckily, it’s also the most wonderful, rewarding, fun and amazing thing you’ll ever do too. I’m glad I’m a Supermum to my kids. They’re pretty super in my eyes too.
How does your family spend their Father’s Day?
We usually go out for brunch, have a lovely meal together and maybe a walk along the beach. It’s relaxed and easy-going. The important thing is that we’re all together. We might throw in a few presents for my husband, but he doesn’t expect much and is happy just being with us. I like my kids to make a special card for their dad, which shows in the making and in the text of that card how much they love him. Those cards are kept forever – they go into their scrapbooks so they will always have them.
Why did you write The Daddy Shop?
The Daddy Shop is a humorous look at children’s often literal, sometimes fickle, viewpoint on parents and their ‘availability’ to satisfy every child’s need. Many parents – not just dads – have to work and this does impact their children, especially if there’s a special event on the horizon that the parent can’t attend. The Daddy Shop is designed to unite working parents and their children in a fun way and to engage them in discussion about family relationships, the importance of making time to be together and, of course, to get families reading together.
The Daddy Shop is available from 1 August.